How deeply someone is seeing oneself ?

A story about discomfort. About perception, about daring to portrayed oneself without absoluetly being clear or neat about what is going on with how you are or how you will be perceived. A story about becoming someone else and the discomfort of it. There is a saying in french "la bave du crapaud n'atteind pas la blanche colombe", well here the dove is the one spitting.